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Polyamory is …

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“To me, being poly is not about having more than one lover, it’s about loving more
than one person. There’s a difference. I want more love in my life, and I
suspect that if this has happened twice for me, it will likely happen again. My
husband is not jealous… he knows that I love him deeply and will not leave
him. In the meantime, allowing life to proceed with enthusiasm and
anticipation, free to believe, free to create our own relationship structures as
individuals, couples, triads, and more, is very profound.”

– User, YahooGroup livingpolymono

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March 9, 2011 at 12:50 pm

I would describe love as…

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In his book Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships, John Welwood defines love with these amazing words:

I would define love very simply: as a potent blend of openness and warmth, which allows us to make real contact, to take delight in and appreciate, and to be at one with – ourselves, others, and life itself. Openness – the heart’s pure, unconditional yes – is love’s essence. And warmth is love’s basic expression, arising as a natural extension of this yes – the desire to reach out and touch, connect with, and nourish what we love. If love’s openness is like the clear cloudless sky, its warmth is like the sunlight streaming through that sky, emitting a rainbow-like spectrum of colors: passion, joy, contact, communion, kindness, caring, understanding, service, dedication, and devotion, to name just a few.

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July 29, 2010 at 8:13 pm

An Absolutist’s Mind

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Absolutist minds can be a menace. They cause real misery, human misery.

– Richard Dawkins

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June 14, 2010 at 9:47 am

“There is no one Truth”

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Kees van Beijnum, 1954, is a Dutch writer. This week, in the Trouw newspaper, he shared his thoughts and feelings when it comes to the “Tien Geboden” or Ten Commandments. Amongmany interesting responses, he had this to say about the first commandment, “thou shalt have no other gods before me”:

“Er is niet één geldige opvatting. Er is niet één waarheid, er zijn geen absolute zekerheden. Die kennis geeft vrijheid, de vrijheid om je eigen verhaal te bedenken.”

“There is no one valid assumption. There is no one truth, no absolutes. That knowledge gives freedom, the freedom to express your own story.”

I do truly believe this, and yet, I find that even I have a hard time accepting that what I believe to be true is also simply what I believe to be true, and says very little about what actually might be true. How could any one of us ever have any kind of special revelation of the truth, which then can be passed on to others as “The” truth? This is a certain recipe for  unbalanced division of powers and abuse of peoples inherent freed om to think for themselves.

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May 24, 2010 at 11:35 am

“Six time 24 hours is too easy”

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Thursday 20 May, 2010, in the Trouw newspaper:

Ook bezint de bond zich nog op ’vragen rond schepping en evolutie’. Het Darwinjaar dat afgelopen jaar werd gehouden zorgde in hervormd-gereformeerde kring voor discussie en verwarring. ”We willen de zes scheppingsdagen niet loslaten, maar het is ook te gemakkelijk om te zeggen dat je er met zes keer 24 uur bent”, verwoordt voorzitter van de Gereformeerde Bond predikant Hans Lam de spagaat.

English Translation:

The Bond is still reflecting on “questions concerning creation and evolution.” The Darwin Year that was held last year, led to discussion and confusion within Reformed circles . “We do not to let go of the six days of creation, but it is also too easy to say that six times 24 hours would be realistic “, are the words Hans Lamb, chairman of the Union of Reformed Ministers, describes the “split” in which the Bond finds itself.

Loosely translated, “Gereformeerde Bond in de Protestantse Kerk in Nederland” would be the “Reformed Union of the Protestant Church in the Netherlands”. This society was formed in 1906 partly in response to a pastor, Louis Adriën Bähler, who had written that Christianity could learn a lot from Buddhism, a statement which, in the eyes of the “bond”, should have been criticized by the synod of the Reformed church, but wasn’t. this is such a clear example where we see the church fighting to hold onto any and every bit of church teaching, in the interest of not straying from the “true” faith, but unfortunately at the expense of believers who are shifting more and more towards a more scientifically supported understanding of how a god might possibly be at work in the world as we know it.

And what I always wonder, is where do these groups get their “inside” knowledge from? For in order to believe something for which there is little to no scientific support, one must make use of some other “source of knowledge”.

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May 24, 2010 at 10:55 am

Why philosophy?

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“Man has no reason to philosophize, except with a view to happiness”

– Saint Augustine

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March 17, 2010 at 5:11 pm

Superiority of Insight

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“…it absolutely forbids us to be forward in pronouncing on the meaninglessness of forms of existence other than our own; and it commands us to tolerate, respect, and indulge those whom we see harmlessly interested and happy in thier own ways, however unintelligible these may be to us. Hands off; neither the whole of truth nor the whole of good is revealed to any single observer, although each observer gains a partial superiority of insight from the peculiar position in which he stands. Even prisons and sickrooms have their special revelations. It is enough to ask of each of us that he should be faithful to his own opportunities and make the most of his own blessings, without presuming to regulate the rest of the vast field. ”

William James from On a Certain Blindness in Human Beings

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January 28, 2010 at 6:26 pm